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I hope this message meets you well.
As is my usual way of doing, I am back with another post. Today, I want to talk about Anger. Yes, we all get angry at one point in time or the other. Personally, in my personal journey with God, I found that I got angry less and less whenever I immersed myself into the word of God and let his word speak to me. However, anger is something that we all still deal with, and we need a healthy release for it, so it does not control us. Instead of holding a grudge, we need to speak to the person who offended us and tell them how we feel.
The Bible says in Matthew 18:15
“If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.
Discretion is needed here because we need wisdom. People get defensive when you tell them that you are offended by something they did, that is perhaps why the Bible says we should call them privately because people are even more defensive when you call out an offensive action they did publicly.
Also, in terms of how we present the issue, we need wisdom too, because certain word choices and tones only escalate the problem. Instead of saying “You are stressing me out“, it is better to say “I feel overwhelmed“, focus on yourself and how you feel, not about the other person, so they do not feel personally attacked.
However, sometimes, you cannot speak to the person who has offended you, because maybe they have an anger management problem, and you know speaking to them would only make matters worse. In that case, give the issue to God in prayer, feel free to write out how you feel about that person on a piece of paper, be open and honest, then pray over that piece of paper, tear it up and throw it away. Find a healthy way to release your anger, because unexpressed anger can become a full-on grudge.
The Bible says in Ephesians 4:26-27
26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.”[a] Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
Anger does give foothold to the devil because it allows the devil to tempt you to do evil and sinful things against the person who made you angry. Therefore, it is important to control anger with wisdom.